(A Brief Interlude Before Proceeding To The Strategy Session)
What Next? (Especially If You Have Enough…)
(and don’t wish to continue rationalizing more for more’s sake potentially sacrificing what you need for what you don’t need cause you’re bored)
When love and skill come to together expect a masterpiece
PLEASE REVISIT THE PERSONAL PROSPECTUS SESSION IN MY BOOK ENOUGH (PROBABLY 99cents on AMAZON, EBAY, OR OVERLOOKED.COM BEFORE PROCEEDING
One reason (other than spontaneous regression, cultural reinforcement and habituation) that people who have ‘enough’ relative to their goals revert to ‘more-onic’ behavior sacrificing what they need for what they don’t need is the inability to deal with what next.
The theme of ‘what next’ is enunciated with different phrases:
· The search for meaning
· What now?
· I want to make a difference
Since there is typically little or no preparation for ‘what next’ and usually the unrealistic and impatient expectation that ‘what next’ should take 20 minutes to achieve at a high level of proficiency level it took 10-15-20 years previously for the client in previous endeavors (typically work).
1.- Use a sketch pad to put your answers. And then post them on a room wall so you can see them in toto (not Dorothy’s dog) to come to some conclusion towards: what next or, at least, what maybe….
2.- Create an end to end horizontal line across the middle of the sketch pad page
3.- Get the book Enough by yours truly (probably 99c on Amazon)and fill out the personal prospectus prior to this session).
4.- If you haven’t filled out the Personal Prospectus from the Enough book (which didn’t translate well into a blog – skip this session. That said, most of my former clients said the Personal Prospectus session was the most valuable part of the Personal Financial Life Planning Process which allowed the alignment of personal financial resources and life goals and values:
Review & Warm Up
1. -Who would play you in the movie about your life?
What is the last line of the movie? (PS Rosebud is taken)
Why this actor or actress?
2. Again, review from personal prospectus in particular:
a. quantitative values
b. the life line
I always wanted and never got – insert as appropo on lifeline
- The ‘Thank God, I Never Got’, as Brooks sings, for unanswered prayers on below the lifeline (what was avoided)
2.- Things, events, people that had a big impact (which was?) and when
3.- Lessons: from Mom, Dad, Enemies, etc and when
Eulogy,Vision, Mission – to be inserted on life line chronologically
1.- Things I stood up for, things I will stand up for, things I should have stood up for
(why did or didn’t - when and put below the lifeline as a choice)
2.- If only’s and when
(what if had – put below the lifeline line at appropriate chronological time)
3.- Kodak Defining Moments (why, and when)
4.- Haunting Events (i.e. bully you didn’t stand up to, teacher saying ‘John, is a nice boy but he’ll become at most X, the hottie saying ‘you’re really a nice guy, but…
5.- Moments of Truth (and their consequences)
6.- Things I Wish To Correct and Didn’t
if I could, I woulds – when
regrets (didn’t do, I did)
things I wish to be forgiven for
7.- I will miss – people, things, things I didn’t complete as of when
8.- Incompletion in my life – Unfinished Business (put into the future on life line)
9.-What Today’s Eulogy Would Look Like (who gives Eulogy)
10.- Eulogy/Mission Today Revisited
____________________, age died yesterday from ________________. He is survived by --__________________________________, He was a member of -__________________. He will be remembered for _________________________________________________ He will be mourned by ______________________ because______________________________. The world will suffer the loss of his contributions in _________________________________________________________. He always wanted but never got___________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________. The body will be __________________________flowers or contributions can be sent to _________________________.
10b.- The Hoped for Eulogy – prompts for revision
He/she (was) ____________________________________________________________
He/she wasn’t ________________________________________________________________________
He/she achieved ________________________________________________________________________
He didn’t achieve (thank G-d) ____________________________________________________________ ____________
Richard Feyhmann, other than Einstein considered by many the world’s smartest person, when dying was asked if he regretted now having kids. To paraphrase, he responded that he had taught, written, and counseled such that there was a little of Feyhmann running around in many individuals.
I (name)___________________________ influenced (who) _______________________ ________________________________________________________________________(how)___________________________________________________________________
I (name) influenced (businesses, organizations, clubs, etc) ________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________
I will be remembered for:
And I wish people would forget or forgive:
And was loved by ______________________________________________________________________
_______________ will miss him because _____________________________________________________________________
_______________ will miss her because _____________________________________________________________________
_______________ will miss him because_______________________________________________________________
He or she has left behind for the his family _____________________________________________________________________
11.-Vision (Should Be) Eulogy– 10 Years + Hence
____________________, age died yesterday from ________________. He is survived by --__________________________________, He was a member of -__________________. He will be remembered for _________________________________________________ He will be mourned by ______________________ because______________________________. The world will suffer the loss of his contributions in _________________________________________________________. He always wanted but never got:____________________________________________ The body will be __________________________flowers or contributions can be sent to _________________________.
Given the Above – Now Has The Following Changed:
-Who would play you in the movie about your life?
Why this actor or actress?
What is the last line of the movie?